‘Is not about finding the right man, but becoming the right woman’

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I’m picky… There I said it, but not in a conceited way and I’m happy with the fact that I’m single because it’s a choice…my choice. I’ve watched girls jump from guy to guy and you know what, that’s when they’re known for being ‘easy’. So many girls out there are pressurized into a relationship/hookup just because her friends have a guy/s. I’m not against relationships at all. In fact I love seeing couples who truly love each other. It’s understandable, I mean we all want someone to call our own but here are some tips to keep you motivated till you meet your Mr. Right.

Be a lady of reckless abandonment.

Don’t assume that any guy will be your ultimate fulfillment in life like your Prince Charming coming to rescue you. My view on it is: I’ll save myself! Take risks in following your dreams no matter what people say. The perfect time to make the most of every opportunity is when you’re single.

Be a lady of diligence.

Be diligent in using your single time wisely. You have the most control of your time now and the choices you make more than ever – so choose wisely with whom you spend it on. You have a life full of promise so don’t waste it on a relationship that you know is going nowhere.

Be a lady of faith.

Trust your heart for the future your eyes cannot see yet. When you’re feeling insecure, know that the right guy for you, will come and you don’t have to chase after anyone. Know that he is out there and you just haven’t met him yet.

Be a lady of virtue.

Everyone experiences temptations of the single life (that hot guy at the club who just wants to hook up). But use these temptations as a opportunity to grow as a person, be proud of the fact that you can say no, I don’t hook up. Always view yourself as a priceless pearl.

Be a lady of purity. 

It might sound old fashioned to you but ‘save your kisses’ for someone that truly deserves them and in doing so you protect yourself from the consequences that could follow, which could be; physically, emotionally, relational or spiritually. And if you have given your all to a guy-begin new again. You are not damaged goods-you are and always will be a treasure. ‘To walk in purity a lady in waiting must first Guard the key to your heart’.

Be a lady of security.

Insecurity causes you to cling onto a relationship. Don’t have your dreams, goals and plans revolve around him. Quit ‘hunting’ after guys and be secure with yourself to hold your own-be your own person and not be defined by who you dating.

Be a lady of contentment.

Enjoy genuine contentment with who you are, because if you yourself can’t stand yourself how can you expect someone else to? Have the capacity to wait and be okay with it. You don’t need anyone else to complete you-but you! Get to know yourself-(your likes, dislikes, morals and values) so that when you do meet the right person you can be an equal in the relationship and not someone who always gives in to what the ‘other’ one wants.

I hope some of these tips will keep you motivated in knowing and believing that you only deserve the best and that it is your right to be picky! Make a realistic list of what you want in a guy and never settle for anything less because you deserve so much more than that. You, dear lady are a treasure never doubt that not even for a second!